Alert! Note the signs to identify when one is jealous of You
Alert! Note the signs to identify when one is jealous of You
Has it ever happened to you that you achieve something successful in your life and you see your friends distancing them from you? While jealousy indicates that you are doing the right thing, you need to identify when one is jealous of you.
You might not know that one of your friends or colleagues is jealous of you, and they might be planning on bringing you down. Therefore, you must check on people who are jealous of you and try to avoid them for your mental health.
Note these signs to identify when one is jealous of you
So, how can one identify if someone is jealous of them or not? Here are some signs of a person that will help you identify when they are jealous of you:
Their compliments are more like insults
They might feel supportive from the outside, but they try to make you feel worst about yourself. Their praises are more like backhanded compliments that sound negative.
Either show fake happiness or belittle your success.
They will always try to undermine your success. They will always be quick to downgrade your success because it levels the playing field and makes them feel better about themselves.
They are always competitive
They will always be anxious to prove their superiority and hence, be over-competitive. A little competition is good for your success, but over-competitiveness is a sign of a toxic friendship.
They talk behind your back
Why would a jealous friend talk badly about you in front of you? They say unkind things about you behind your back to subtly vent their jealousy.
They are always negative
Have you ever encountered people who always bring up negative aspects of things? You might share some good news, but they cut your conversation with a passive-aggressive or negative comment. They have a bleak outlook on their life.
They criticize your decisions
Rather than reassuring and encouraging you, a jealous friend always makes you doubt yourself. They feel insecure about their own decisions and project these insecurities onto you through their
reactions or comments.
They imitate you
A jealous friend thinks you are doing better than them, so they always want to copy you. They might imitate your taste, style, or even sense of humor to make their life similar to yours.
They try to upstage you
They might interrupt your conversation and bring up something about themselves that would make others praise them. A jealous friend would always want people to celebrate them and not you.
How to handle a jealous person?
Now that you have the signs to identify who is jealous of you, it will be easier to delve into the root cause of their jealousy and handle them:
A. You can empathize with them and be a bigger person. Check if they are jealous of you because they are struggling with emotional insecurities.
B. You can complement them from time to time. A person’s jealousy is usually caused by self-doubt and inadequacy.
C. You can talk to them and tell them how their actions have affected you.
D. If the above tips still don’t help stop their toxic behaviour, you can limit your interaction with that person and ignore their comments for peace of mind.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
- What does it mean when someone is jealous of me?
People get jealous of you when they think you are better than them. While this may be unproblematic initially, it may start interfering with a person’s well-being and, thus, creating more complications.
- What should I do if one of my close friends is now friends with other people and tries to put me down?
You can approach your friend positively and respectfully and tell them how you really feel. However, if they continue to put you down, please surround yourself with your loved ones and distance yourself from that close friend.
- What should I do if my friend is jealous of me?
If you want your friendship to be free of jealousy, empathize with your friend and give them tools to manage their jealousy.
Jealousy is a natural feeling, an inner consciousness of one’s inferiority. Since a jealous person can easily harm your mental health, you must identify and handle them carefully.
You can refer to our guide above for some important signs to identify when one is jealous of you.
Always be confident in your actions, and never let jealous people bring your morale down. And in case of any questions, please comment below!
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I generally avoid people from whom I get negative vibes. I found this post is so apt for today’s masking people and oviously we shouold avoid these kinda harmful people from our life.
Jealousy is a dangerous sword, one has to be careful. Thanks for these useful tips.
I feel you have addressed the area of jealousy well. We all feel jealous from time to time, but when it’s chronic, it needs to be removed from your life. It becomes a toxin that needs to be eliminated and sometimes, you might need to say goodbye to the jealous person.
I totally agree with you! I have friend who try to bring me down just because they feel insecure in their life and the worst part is I used to get effected by them a lot. I was so influenced by their negative comments and backhand lashes I failed to recognize they own jealousy was pulling me down. I understood it soon enough and have either distanced myself from them or I am more cautious now.
Whaw what a post, the title was so eye catching, I couldn’t wait to finish reading the blog. Jealousy is very dangerous for the person who lets it grows inside oneself.
It took me a while to figure that some people around me were jealous of me. If I had come across such a blog earlier, it wouldv have been much easy to identify. These days I try to stay away from people who give me negative vibes as much as possible, but it is easier said than done. Your tips about handling them are really good Samata.
Jealousy can be a challenging emotion to deal with, especially when it comes from people close to us. Your post rightly points out that achieving success may lead to some friends or colleagues distancing themselves from you due to jealousy. However, it’s crucial to identify when jealousy becomes toxic and starts to affect our mental health.
I completely agree that we need to be confident in our actions and not let jealous people bring us down. It’s essential to surround ourselves with people who support us and lift us instead of trying to tear us down. Your advice to identify jealous people and avoid them for our mental well-being is spot on.
This is must read post samata.
I really appreciate your post. You have covered all possible points of jealousy. We women are usually targeted by our own gender. All these years it used to hurt me. After 59 years, I have only realised that you should be happy if people are jealous. It means you are far better than them and that why they envy you. If you take that positively it is no longer toxic.
We’ve all faced such negative emotions and dont always know how to deal with them. Self-confidence and distancing us from people who can’t be happy for us always work for me.
Comparisons are normal. But jealousy is something we should avoid. And it hurts when someone close is jealous of us and tries to damage us. We usually miss the signs. Thank you for sharing them.
Extremely relevant post in this world of fake friendships and relationships. Been there and done that, and have been royally betrayed by an extremely close friend who was jealous of me. I couldn’t see the red flags earlier. anyways, have learned my lesson and am super alert with whom I share my energy and aura and try to remain calm and positive.
Unfortunately encountering jealous people is part and parcel in life and this list is useful in knowing how to handle it. I have had to eliminate toxic people in my life by interpreting these signs
I think we should not be affected or we should be able to empathize as you said. Detailed post about envy as an emotion.
OH, dear i face this kind of issue many times. Specially i face this in group. A friend who we think of US but they are not. Your every mentioned POINTS i have been through that. I kept distance from such People. And feel pity for them.
I have had the misfortune of coming across such people, even recently. Their own insecurities make them so…sometimes even for petty things like when other people appreciate / compliment something you have done. Usually I confront such people as I believe calling out this behavior will make them think twice before they mess with me again. And I also avoid them as much as possible as I feel it is better to keep the negativity away if possible.
Oh I have come across so many people who are jealous of me
. Ironically, your first point reminded me of my mil who tends to punch every compliment with an insult!
These are the kind of people you shouldn’t be caring about. You should be too busy to enough in your life not to give time for these kind of people to pollute your brain and way of living.
We can’t avoid jealous people but it is always good to be aware of the signs. We often tend to overlook them. Thanks for sharing the pointers, Samata.
An interesting subject for a blog post. You have shared sensible tips to tackle this problem.
Jealousy to a point is understandable and natural. However, it can get really malicious. This happens everywhere, in the corporate world, in the blogging world, in your social circles, almost everywhere. The best way is to be wary of jealous people, but avoid them as much as possible.
I feel its better to be away from these jealous friends. I can’t stand it when they criticise me behind my back. It’s hard to stay calm in those situations, but I consciously avoid talking to them to keep my mental peace. I’m sure there are others who feel the same way and would rather be away from them.
I related to this post on a high level as i faced similiar issue from a friend. That person seems to be jealous of everyone not just me or anyone specifically. she constantly tries to fake show off which is irritating.
These are perfect points. And they all are true. I have experienced them firsthand. It was very evident when a friend of mine back in college was jealous of me for a reason. But back then I did not know how to handle it and I used to let her make me feel bad about myself. Thankfully I got out of that toxic friendship. Thanks for the tips though. MAny people (including me) need it.
Identifying signs of jealousy is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. This insightful post sheds light on the subtle cues to help us recognize and address jealousy effectively. Highly informative!
Honestly this post was super helpful I sometimes don’t understand what the person in front of me is feeling
Really insightful and informative
Oh dear I have been there and can’t tell you how relatable I am feeling while I.read the post. I have already distanced myself from such friends and what a peace.